Lately I have noticed the patterns of our relationships, be it; relatives, girlfriends or boyfriends, or just friends in general. We as people no longer connect, relate, or befriend each other as we should or as we did at one point in time. It almost seems as if most of our relationships are forced, tolerated, or false. Like nothing about the relationship is genuine or stable. We look to social media for entertainment, friendships, and advice, no longer seeking connections to mom, dad, siblings, or friends. Why is that? What have we come to guys?
If we were to take a look at our own surroundings; daily we see strangers, friends, or loved ones living with depression, being promiscuous, feeling insecure and uncomfortable with themselves, and most of all trying to live up to social standards. And losing the connection with themselves and with the ones they need in their lives the most. Sometimes it seems as if its social media that gives off this facade by giving people a false idea of life and how it should be lived, for instance the “No New Friends” term. Oh Gosh we had saying going for a while. The saying/song basically said that there was no need to add new people in your life and to stick with whom you already know. I really hated that term. We all need friends, nor do we need to shut people out that may be in need of us. We get so carried away with the ideas of others in social media and never have stopped to realize that most don’t live what they post, tweet, pin, or blog for that matter. Although we may agree with a quote or saying, we just can’t get life lessons from it.
Another reason for lost connections among us is Technology. Although its meant to keep us fully connected, it moves us further apart. For instance one can take 5 minutes to text, when it would have only taken 2 minutes to call and say or ask what they needed. Or one can meet a guy or a gal and they will text you before they have even had a conversation with you. My kids will even be in the same house with me, our rooms are not far apart, and they will still text ” mom what are you cooking tonight?” instead of talking to me. I can’t with that. Even at work, my dept is small we are all very close to each-other, yet we call each-others extension or email instead of taking three to four steps to communicate. I don’t think we realize how these things are pulling us further apart, making it even harder for us to communicate and relate to one another. I can’t remember the last time I seen kids out riding bikes, or playing hide & seek or hop-scotch. No now its video games, tablets, Instagram, Kik, Glide and a host of other things we use for entertainment, that goes for us adults as well.
We wonder why our souls are not being fed or why we are still feeling empty and lonely, and always looking for more. It’s because no computer, game, ,social site, car, piece of clothing, or even money, can be fed to our hearts, minds, or souls. It’s only the connection to God, Yourself, and Loved ones that will constantly satisfy your heart and emotions. Having a great engaging conversation will always brighten or overload your spirits with joy. Giving someone a compliment can help them feel better about themselves. Telling someone you love them and you are there for them will make a world of difference when they are in a dark place in their life. These are the kinds of connections we need in this world. We all need to put the phones and tablets down, sign off social media sometimes to meditate, pray, talk to a friend or loved one or simply be in peace and quiet. We need that time to focus, regroup, or put out lives or situations into perspectives so that we can re-connect to real life, real relationships, and real love. Love and great Relationships is the key to a fulfilling life.